28 May This Is Working… (Kids)

I wanted to share a personal testimony with this group because I feel that so many other moms struggle in these areas as well. One thing that has changed the atmosphere in our home (attitudes of my kids) has been me taking individual time, on purpose, in connecting with my children(and their hearts). I used to go about my day and basically they would follow with me but I got really desperate for answers when behaviors seemed negative most of our day. I was given the advice to spend individual one on one time with each child for 10 minutes a day doing what they would like to do, not what I would like to do ( doing this twice a day is what they recommended but even once a day will help out quite a bit) . I then explained to each child that if they interrupted their siblings time with me, they would not get their time… This helped a lot.

The second thing that has helped drastically in my parenting is finding the underlining reason for negative behavior. Children have a very difficult time expressing their needs because they don’t even know what they need. Men would agree that women have a difficult time as well, lol. It is our job as mothers to meet these emotional needs, to understand our children and what is really going on inside. And if you’re not sure yourself, God, who created our children in our womb, can Give us all the answers we need! He knows everything about them and he wants to give us victory in our day-to-day parenting. I hear a lot of moms suggesting to ignore their child’s behavior and if that’s what you choose to do as a parent that’s totally you’re right but may I suggest that if this is not working for you maybe it is because ignoring behavior doesn’t get to the root of the problem and solve what is really going on … It is not his will that we just barely get through the day and wake up to do it all over again.

And the last thing that I would like to say is God would like to use us to represent him and HIS love to our children! The enemy would also like to use us in representing his ways to our children! So when we get frustrated and say mean and hurtful things or we react in anger, we are doing the enemy’s job for him! Thankfully if this happens though we can always go to our children and make it right when we mess up.

Have a great day living out your purpose today as a mom!